How to attract a guy over 40 seems to be a common question asked by single gals that are in the forty plus range. Most of these women are under the impression that to attract a man in that age group you have to be a 20 something young female. I admit it appears this is true if you don’t really understand the reason why some middle-aged men go after younger women and what is really taking place.
Let’s start at the beginning.
The ways that attraction works on men over a certain age, at the end of the day has very little to do with age. But rather it has to do with attitude. An older woman who is “young at heart” will hands down surpass a younger woman who does not have the advantage of life’s experiences.
So what does it mean to have a youthful attitude?
Well first let’s look at what it doesn’t mean, okay?
Muffin top is not the way to go
It does not imply that you should dress like your teenage daughter or go get a bunch of tattoos or a nose ring.
It does not mean that you buy low rise jeans and expose your midriff (and muffin top) no matter how hot you think you look in them? And it is not about trying to memorize the lyrics from Britney’s newest hit so you can sing along. It is not about trading your car in for a motorcycle and become a leather wearing chick. You get the drift I’m sure.
A divorced woman past 40 and back in the dating world, who is energetic, takes care of her body by working out and expresses her passion for living and life in general exemplifies a woman who has a youthful attitude. She will inevitably draw attention from younger men, men her age and older men. For this purpose you can have some cheap elliptical trainers to get into perfect figure.
Just like bees to honey.
Now let me make myself clear, this is not something you can pretend to be. It must come from who you really are and what you do. But the good news is you can evolve to this attitude of being young at heart.
Three Ways To Attract A Guy After Forty
Here are 3 surefire steps to attracting guys over 40 by shifting your attitude.
When You Are Passionate It Shows
#1 – Do What You Love and Your New Love Will Show Up
Start doing things that you love doing and do them with enthusiasm. It could be gardening or playing tennis. Hiking, painting or photography may be your thing. The what you do doesn’t matter it is how you do it. The key is to immerse yourself into your passion. Men will notice your energy and passion.
#2 – Expand Your World, Do Something New & Different
Do something for someone else to get outside of your own small world. Volunteering is most often the answer to fulfilling your world by giving to others.
Connect Through Service To Others
Research all the opportunities available so you make the best choice of what would entice and inspire you. It is magical when your get outside of your own worries and woes and enter this world of helping others. You can meet great men doing volunteer work. These guys have values and are actively supporting those values (hint: values that you share are the starting point of what could be a great relationship).
#3 – Pay Attention To The Present Moment: He Might Be Right In Front Of You
If you have a busy mind and you are always thinking about this or that then you can not be totally present (i.e. in the moment) when you are with other people. Others will feel your lack of presence and will not find it appealing and not hang around you for very long. So to help you evolve to a quieter mind and focus you attention in the moment you could start to spend some time meditating each day.
Older men particularly find this attractive. The more you practice meditation the more centered and focused you will become and you will notice people being attracted to you because they feel you are really interested in them as a human being. There is no better feeling than being heard and acknowledged without judgment by another person.
Make The Connection
Be Passionate… Do Something Different…Pay Attention
So in summary, to answer the question of how to attract a guy over 40, is to get engaged with something that you feel passionate about doing. Give back to others by being a volunteer. And develop your sense of being present in the moment through daily meditation. All this points to first, a more “contented life” and second to attracting mature men that really know what they want in a woman. You will add to your happiness and well being through a forty plus aged guy’s strength and commitment