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by James Adam

How to Maintain Love and Respect in A Marriage


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Whether you are newlywed or have been married for a long time, maintaining love and respect in a marriage is quite important. A little ignorance can make it a daunting task for you. So, no matter how busy you are, take your relationship on priority. By taking care of a few things, you can succeed to maintain the constant flow of love and respect in your marriage. Some useful tips to maintain love and respect in your marriage are mentioned below. They will definitely help you to get the best results. Have a look on them.

Build and Show Trust

Trust is one of the most essential things that a couple needs to maintain a healthy relationship. Therefore, make sure with passing days your trust in each other gets increased. Make your partner realise that you trust them more than anyone else. It will help you to win their love and respect for a lifetime.

Make Them Feel Special

Special occasions come to celebrate with your spouse and also make them feel out of the world. For instance, if it is your wedding anniversary, send anniversary gifts online and make them feel special. Such kinds of surprises on special occasions will make your partner love you more.

Give Them Space

Being married doesn’t mean that you both got bound to the limited world. Yes, every relationship needs a space that you must offer to your partner to get their love and respect. Giving sufficient space to them shows your trust in them that is a good signal to take your marriage ahead.

Keep Your Promises

Say what you mean and try to keep it anyway. Yes, follow this rule in life and get an abundance of love and respect from your spouse. The value of your words makes your partner trust you more. They take you seriously. So, maintain those love, respect, and trust by keeping your words at any cost.

Take Care of Yourself

Everyone wants to see their spouse look gorgeous, stay fit, healthy, and attractive. Therefore, if you want more love and respect from your partner, then start taking care of yourself a bit more. It is a fact that the way you treat yourself will encourage others to treat you in that way.

Show Affection

Hugging, kissing, cuddling, loving touches, etc. are the ways to shower your partner with all the love. So, find time to spend some private moments with your partner and make them realise how much you love them.  It will definitely lead to endless love and respect in your married life.

Value Their Advice

Asking them for their advice or opinion on any matter makes them feel valued. Apart from showing love, sharing things and asking for a piece of advice is a great way to the door of love and respect. So, do it whenever you need it and make your partner feel that you really love and respect them.

So, these are the piece of advice that you can opt for maintaining love and respect in your marriage. Just follow them and keep living a happy and healthy married life.


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by Incredible Planet Staff

Taking That First Trip After Your Divorce


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Divorce can be an extremely upsetting experience for everyone involved, and it’s natural to find yourself experiencing a variety of conflicting, confusing feelings once your marriage has come to an end. On one hand, you are no longer married, and are without a partner for the first time in a long while. As anyone who has experienced a breakup of a long-term relationship would know, this can leave you with feelings of hurt, anger, sadness or possibly even guilt. You may feel lonely and vulnerable following your divorce, and it is perfectly normal if you do.

On the other hand, perhaps your recent divorce has left you feeling happier, stronger and ready to celebrate your newfound single status. This can be especially true if your marriage was the main source of any emotional pain or stress in your life, or if you were involved in an abusive or dysfunctional marriage.

If this is the case, finalizing your divorce may be a very uplifting and empowering event in your life. You may feel like you are ready to learn new skills, try out new hobbies, and perhaps even begin dating again. This is all normal behavior as well; just as every marriage is different, so is every divorce. Every emotion you have, both positive and negative, is absolutely valid at this time in your life.

Regardless of whether you are mourning the loss of your marriage or brimming with excitement about what lies ahead, taking a trip after finalizing your divorce can act as a means of closure for this chapter. Much like a marriage begins with a honeymoon to commemorate the beginning of a new life together, a post-divorce vacation can act as something of a “solo-moon,” as a way to reconnect with your feelings and manage the stress you have been coping with during the divorce process.

If you have been dealing with feelings of sadness, anger, anxiety or depression, a quiet, self-reflective trip may be what you need to get yourself back on track. An outdoor camping or hiking adventure, sun-filled beach vacation, or one of the more affordable yoga retreats are all good options for a peaceful post-divorce journey to reclaim your spirit. Recently-divorced people who want to clear their minds and restore their inner peace may opt to travel alone, or they may choose to go with a trusted friend or family member to provide support and motivate them to try new experiences.

Then again, maybe finalizing your divorce has left you in the mood to party, and you want to celebrate your newly-divorced status with a fun-filled Caribbean cruise, a beach vacation in Mexico, or a wild Vegas weekend. There’s certainly nothing wrong with wanting to welcome yourself back to the single scene with a bang! We all process life changes in our own ways, and if you’re in the mood to hit the road with a couple of friends, or take a solo trip to a place on your bucket list, you should take the opportunity and go where your heart leads you.

During your first post-divorce trip, you may find yourself experiencing conflicting emotions at times, and that’s a completely normal part of the healing process. For instance, someone who first felt depressed and miserable at the end of their marriage may wake up one morning to that he or she feels excitement or even joy about the day ahead. Conversely, in the midst of celebrating your divorce with a nonstop party weekend, you may suddenly feel alone in a crowd, and find yourself taking a quiet moment to process the pain, loss or sadness from your ordeal. According to Chicago divorce mediation experts SplitSimple, neither of these reactions is wrong or abnormal in any way. We are all individuals and recover from upsetting life events in different ways, at different speeds. There is no prescribed way to feel or act at any given moment- allowing yourself to feel what you need to feel, when you need to feel it, will help expedite your healing process and help you process your post-divorce emotions in a healthy way.

Choosing divorce mediation over a traditional courtroom divorce is one way to get through the divorce process simply, quickly, and relatively painlessly. With divorce mediation, you can have just as satisfactory of an outcome as you can with a traditional courtroom divorce, with a lot less stress, time, and cost. Choosing divorce mediation may be a good solution for dissolving your marriage as quickly and simply as possible, so you can get to a stage where you are ready to travel as a solo act. Whenever you are ready to take that first post-divorce trip, you will be able to begin the next leg of your journey, and hopefully find peace and happiness in your life.

by John Tarr

Pre-Wedding Rituals: How People in Different Countries Celebrate Marriage


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The term “bachelor” was first used to describe an unmarried man in The Canterbury Tales back in the 14th Century.

In a lot of cases today, Stag Dos or bachelor parties are even more important than the marriage itself. The tradition of celebrating the last night of singledom has gained even more traction with the surfacing of event companies dedicated to the cause.

While the popularity of these bachelor or stag parties is immense in english-speaking countries, other cultures are not far behind. Read on to find out how different cultures celebrate the last fling before the ring:

The Spartans

Ancient Spartans are often credited with starting the tradition of celebrating the last night of bachelorhood. Since as early as the 5th Century, Spartan soldiers would celebrate the groom’s last night as a single man by holding a dinner party in their friend’s honour.

The parties would include a generous spread of their most loved meals, along with a series of toasts made in the honour of the groom.

The Germans

In the German language, a bachelor party is called Junggesellenabschied, which literally translates to “farewell to bachelorhood”. Staying true to the German spirit, the event involved binge drinking of beers, along with mild humiliation and funny costuming of the groom.

In addition to that, the Germans have another pre-wedding tradition that involves both the bride and the groom. Usually held the night before the wedding, Polterabend involves breaking of porcelain earthenware to bring luck to the couple’s married life.

The Fins

The Finnish people have their own way of celebrating the end of bachelorhood which involves some heavy drinking (of course!) and doing something extraordinary. In most cases, the extraordinary tasks are decided by the friends of the groom and are extremely foolish. These dares usually make up for some pretty embarrassing stories that are later shared with the rest of the family.

The British

British call the celebration a stag party, and it is an enormously popular tradition in the British culture. The party is usually organised by the best man of the groom. Since it is such a big deal in their culture, the stag party business in the country is on experiencing an all-time high in terms of demand. Involving pub crawls, strippers, all-night parties, the British take the celebration of singledom very seriously.

In fact, it is common for “stag groups” to fly to foreign destinations for the celebration, where they can let go of all kind of inhibitions and do things that the bride-to-be may not find so pleasant.

The USA

Almost everyone knows about the popularity of bachelor parties in the US. After the huge success of Hollywood film series The Hangover, we all have a pretty good idea of what goes down in an American bachelor party.

For those of you that don’t, American bachelor parties are very similar to the British stag dos. Made famous by the Hollywood film series mentioned earlier, the sin city of Las Vegas is by far, the most popular choice for bachelor groups. After all, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.

Conclusion

In every culture, there are certain wedding traditions that simply cannot be ignored. While stag or bachelor parties were always a part of this list, Hollywood movies have fortified their importance further.

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by Incredible Planet Staff

Four Foolproof Guidelines for Buying the Perfect Wedding Band for Your Husband


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The bride may be the central attraction of a wedding as she leaves the house of her parents and enters a new home to live with her husband, but that does not mean the groom should take a back seat. It is his wedding too, after all; and he deserves as much affection and attention as his better-half. While the bride gets a lot of jewelry items as gifts from parents and close family members, the only item that a groom prefers to show off is his wedding ring.

Most men don’t like to spend a lot of time doing jewelry shopping. If your husband is very busy with his work, then it’s your duty as his future wife to pick a ring that he will wear for the rest of his life. If you are confused, then here are some tips that will help you buy the most beautiful wedding ring for your partner.

Fix a budget: The first thing you need to do is to decide how much you are going to spend for the wedding band. If you are paying for it alone, then your budget could be low, but if your husband is bearing 50% of the cost then you may pick something more expensive. However, please remember that wedding is not just about buying a ring because the total expenditure of the wedding could be really high considering the price of wedding gown, decoration, and catering.

As soon as you enter the jewelry shop, it is wise to tell the jeweler about your budget so that he can show you only the best items within your budget. In case you are buying the ring from an e-commerce website, you can select the price range to filter the men’s wedding band search results.

Get the right size: It is a disaster if you buy a ring that looks great but smaller or bigger than the finger size of your spouse. The ideal way to pick the right size is to ask your soon-to-be husband if he has any other ring and take it with you at the jewelry shop so that they can measure it and help you choose the perfect fit for his finger.

Match his personality: Wedding rings come in different designs and metals and both need to be considered during the selection process. For example, if your spouse is involved in manual labor, it is wise to select a hard metal for him such as tungsten instead of gold. Similarly, if he is flamboyant in nature then you should invest your money in a funky design.

It should complement your wedding ring: When you two will go out, your wedding rings should display your personality and unity as a married couple. It does not have to match your ring’s design; instead, it should complement it. For instance, both bride and groom can buy rose gold rings or they may have a diamond in both rings. This way, the harmony of your married life will be presented in a classy style.

Conclusion

Nothing is more satisfactory that buying a ring for your husband and then giving it to him on the wedding day. The smile on his face and sparkle in his eyes will be an everlasting memory.

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by Incredible Planet Staff

What is a Prenup – and why should I consider one?


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A prenup is a binding agreement about how assets will be divided in the event of a marriage or de facto relationship breaking down. These documents can be challenged when a divorce occurs, especially if the agreement was made many years in the past. Because they are open to challenge, it is important to get a good prenup lawyer to help you to draft the document.

Prenuptial agreements are particularly important in a number of circumstances:

  • In the case of a second marriage, when there are children of a prior relationship who need financial protection
  • When one partner in a de facto relationship moves into property owned by the other partner
  • When one partner brings significantly greater property into the relationship
  • When a partner wants to protect an expected inheritance or family business
  • When the couple are simply agreed that, in the event of a break up, there will be an amicable out of court property division.

However, around 40% of marriages end in divorce in modern Australia, so documenting finances and coming to an agreement about a fair division in the event of a break up makes sense for everyone.

Agreements that purely revolve around finances are usually enforced by the courts, especially if circumstances have not substantially changed between the signing of the document and a divorce.

In the famous “pole dancer case” for example, a middle aged multimillionaire met a penniless adult entertainer and fell in love, whereupon he divorced his wife (who got $7 million in the property settlement).

He became engaged to the dancer and decided he didn’t want to risk too much of his wealth, so the new couple had a prenup lawyer draw up an agreement whereby he would pay her $3.25 million if they divorced within four years.

Predictably, the marriage lasted less than two. When the husband tried to get the prenup overturned, on the grounds that she had never loved him and only wanted his money, the family court decided the document was clear and valid enough that it should be upheld.

There are a number of situations in which a prenuptial agreement will be overturned by a court, however. Frequently, people try to put “lifestyle clauses” in the document, which are completely unenforceable.

A common example is when couples try to make special provisions in the event of infidelity – however the law is not concerned about why a divorce occurs, and a court will overturn the document and divide assets based on the “no-fault” formula.

There are also some crazier examples, where people have tried to include clauses regulating weight gain and the frequency of sexual intercourse. There have even been instances where a prenup has had a clause demanding that the wife get an abortion should she fall pregnant.

None of these requirements are enforceable, and the inclusion of them will often invalidate the financial element of the document as well.

The Family Law act which makes provisions for prenups (legally known as a “binding financial agreement”) requires each party to have independent and adequate legal advice before they sign the document. It also states that the signing cannot be made under duress by either spouse.

This has been interpreted to mean that one party cannot announce that their partner needs to sign or the wedding is off immediately before the ceremony.

Apart from the inability of the other spouse to get their own legal advice in the timeframe, threatening to call off the wedding has been seen by the family court as an example of duress, and taking advantage of the partner with less negotiating power.

A financial agreement can be signed at any point during the relationship, so calling it a “prenup” is something of a misnomer. The partner who the assets are being protected from will probably be more reluctant to sign the agreement after the wedding, however.

It is also important that the document should cover assets gained (and lost) through the course of the relationship, as well as those that are brought into the marriage. This aspect of the agreement is often neglected, even though over the course of a marriage financial states can change tremendously.

Prenuptials can be very useful when it comes to protecting assets in the event of a divorce, especially when one partner comes into the relationship with children already. They are also far cheaper to procure than a protracted property settlement would be, so the overall asset pool will be less diminished after a divorce.

When they are drafted properly, are clear in the provisions made and are reasonably fair to both spouses then they are almost always upheld by the court. This means that it is very important for a good prenup lawyer to draw up the document and for both parties to get good, independent advice.