Apart from the promise of eternal love, today’s marriages have little in common with those that took place 50 years ago. This is often due to circumstances that have changed our overall private and professional life. This in turn leads to married couples having to confront completely different uncertainties.
Our world has become quicker than it used to be. The logical conclusion, that marriages of many years are now experiencing this is not necessarily correct. It is young relationships, partnerships and marriages that have to work themselves through an entirely different setting. Pitfalls here can be the professional situations or different lifestyles of the partners. The distribution of roles in private life is also no longer so clear these days.
For example, employees under the age of 30 now only spend around two years in the same workplace. It is obvious that this can put a strain on a relationship. Such serious changes often lead to routines and habits that have become dear to the employee being left behind. People develop in different directions, want to fulfil themselves and eventually drift apart.
A frequent disruptive factor in a relationship is the lack of understanding the interests or developments of your partner. The partners feel excluded and do not understand each other anymore. If this is not recognised in time, the end of the relationship is inevitable.
It is important to get the dearest person on board, to involve him in serious decisions. Communication is everything. Partners who see themselves as equal and talk to each other accordingly can prevent emotional decay in a relationship. Fortunately, even stalled alliances can be healed.
Many couples rightly feel the need to save their relationship and seek professional help in the form of couple therapy. Couple therapists act as neutral observers and mediators between the partners. The foundation stone for couple therapy is good psychotherapy. They build trust, stimulate communication and ask the right questions. This breaks up encrusted structures. What was believed to be lost reappears. Appreciation for each other is restored and trust is built up.
The partners are encouraged to be more open towards each other’s plans and to communicate with each other at eye level. The aim is not to fall back into the old routine and negative relationship patterns and thus to live a functioning relationship permanently. You find further information here: www.systemische-psychotherapie-frankfurt.de/en